notes from cirendeu

People always communicate. Not only to exchange information, but the essential thing is to make others understand. Understanding is the important thing to maintain relationship.

We recognize people personality is unique and complex, however several theories divide people into some group of personality. The simplest one was dividing by 2 categories: extrovert and introvert.

There were other theories that people divide into many more type, from 4 to 16, or even more. It doesn’t mean some type is superior or better rather than the others. No, absolutely not!! It just the preference……Whatever!!

The curiosity is…could we communicate better to person with the same type?? Or could be better with the opposite one? Which one the best??

There are two arguments on these:

First: of course we definitely choose friend with the same (or at least similar) type as it makes us easier to understand each other, and we could corporate better in many things. We have a lot of common in the way of think and act.

Second: We prefer to have friend from different (sometimes extremely different) type since we interested to know other type, to complete and synergic others strength & weakness. We can enrich and expand our understanding by knowing others, which have opposite personality with ourselves. Unpredictable, but it is challenging!

What’s your opinion?? What do you think??

Since people tend to avoid conflict and fight, the first choice looks favorable. But did you ever think that fight or conflict is just a natural process to get more and deeper understanding? In order to achieve the next step in relationship: accepting each other.

At the end, those two opinions have the same objective, through different route: understanding

My opinion is whatever type of personality that your fiends have, if you fell comfortable in your communication way and your relationship. Just go for it!!

Coz we make friend not just base on our logical judgment, but with our heart as well. Believe me, your friends will appreciate that 

I didn’t go to Singapore during last Singapore Great Sale or even went to KL when VNC have big discount at their flagship store, however I still have the merchandise that I picked by my self from there.

How is it possible?

First of all thanks to my beloved husband as he always ask me when he has a business trip “what do you need from Singapore?” Kuala Lumpur? Hong Kong? Bangkok? Sidney? Beijing? Or anywhere else.

I don’t always request something coz I realize ….I do have enough shoes, bags, and apparel in my wardrobe.

But when he called me just right in front of the store and say “They have big sale, up to 50%. Are you sure you don’t want anything from here??” Just like other women’s behavior…big sale is too attractive to missed…..this is the opportunity to have branded item with special price…amazingly if 50% cut price!!

Considering he doesn’t have plenty of time to shop around , I have to think and decide quickly !!

And if finally I say yes….the next question would be “what kind of shoes or bag do you want?”

Well, It hard to describe. It is the women stuff, men never concern about trends, fashion and style. They only know 2 colors, black and not black….they  don’t care about beige, off white, Ivory, cream, honey , olive, tawny, violet, fuchsia, berry, bronze, cinnamon, mahogany and so on….No wonder shopping time become nightmare for them.

Fortunately we have technology that helps us in many ways. I just ask him to take photograph (with his mobile phone) of the merchandise that closest to my quick brief, and send me trough MMS. I just picked one from 4-5 photo that I had received . The more effective alternative is, I just browsed the internet, and have quick search about the goods that I prefer. Simply SMS him the code, size, color and finally…. I get the item which exactly the same to what I have seen from the computer’s monitor.

He was glad to not waste his valuable time in shopping center, and I am happy to have the branded items with special price that I have chosen from 2000 km away…or even more. Thanks to technology!