notes from cirendeu

If you check at the dictionary sepia means a reddish-brown colour associated particularly with early monochrome photographs.Well, just alike grey color it never have the firm connotation- in the middle of Black & White- as always represent as uncertainties

Sephia didn’t have any meaning in Bahasa Indonesia until Sheila on 7 introduced their popular song – Sephia – my secret lover.The term become trendy, when somebody whispering “would you be my sephia?” – there is no another explanation others than he/she ask u to be his/her secret lover.

There are so many articles about disadvantage of being the secret lover.But what is the advantage then?

Let’s try to have positive perception on these…free commitment, shortcut for having fun, no future relationship, no pain and tears coz no need real ‘love’,  no consequence… for some people these offering looks favorable.No wonder they take the risk that challenge their adrenalin.

Everybody have different reason. But at the end, the choice is yours.

We define organization is group of people that have the same objective, then marriage can describe  as small organization with emotional bounding.

Just like other common organization, marriage as organization have core value and behavior, and since different organization have different value, vision and mission, so does the marriage is.

People instinctively build personal relationship in any setting, conflict is part of human nature, whenever people interact, and they’re going to disagree and it initially the game called “politics”. Still, politics isn’t all negative.

In the professional organization, office politic always happen since there is formal hierarchy. Actually you have the choice to avoid OR deal with it by negotiation, patient, focus, listen, observed, and build partnerships

What about politics in marriage? I think these are same options, some people ignore, and others deal with it. However, most of the people deal with it and not realize that they play some “politics”.

Which one is the best? Again, just like in organization behavior, understanding of the politics dynamic is essential to managerial success in your organization

What is the best tool? Managerial expert believe that communication is the best tools to controlling politics and minimizing conflict in organization, as well as in the marriage 

Why people so paranoid? Is that because of marriage is so complicated, it could not be as simple as professional organization, involve so many emotional and feeling that cannot describe in logical thinking. If you take the wrong step, the result will regret you for life…

Hey, nobody said to have a happy marriage was going to easy, right?